Where is the Love: Second Looks

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So much of who and what a woman is , is physical. This is the invisible choker we wear around our neck, the tragedy and reality of being a woman. You may choose to gasp and be somewhat annoyed at this statement, but have a conversation wIth a friend who meets the criteria for the demographic group: 50  or over and who during her lifetime has enjoyed th benefits of her femininity , by that I mean she has been fully cognizant that when in the presence of a man or group of men they are permitted to express appreciation of her physical beauty and she is  permitted to bask in the joy fothose woman who have lived a life understanding and appreciating that second look from a man other than your  spouse or significant other sparked a quickness in your step or a smile on your face  and that reminded you, wow I am still  something special, that look that remained with you all of the day not because that person mattered to you on any personal level but their  single action matters more than he will ever know. The stranger with the power, if you are part of the over 50 crowd, to entice you to throw your hat in the air and sing the Mary Tyler Moore theme song and make you quietly whisper to yourself - oh yeah, I still got it !This is about you and me and what happened to second look? Ok why does it matter  We are a culture obsessed with youth . Advertisers  I  refuse to play the statistic game but spend 30 minutes watching any program other than children's programing and count how many beauty product commercials you view and how many products address stalling the aging process. And then there are the unlimited access to options to nip and tuck, replace bad joints or do almost anything money can buy. We are made to no longe.  feel beautiful because the media does not define agsfisng as beautiful sexy so why should anyone else. Having valued us largely for our physical characteristics second only to our maternal role we want to continue to be appreciated for our pHysical beauty. we do not feel any differently inside but yes we are aging. I have a close fre

Riend approaching 59 she does not appear to be even close rot is age, but she misses the second looks. I explored this with a view other woman, I was told its hardest on the  blonds . After allAmerica this is your idea of physical female beauty at it's bestf, so when's those second looks no longer come this toughest on the blonds. I was reallysurprised at how many woman immediately opened up about this topic. What I am left with is this - whist the loss of the second look represents invisibility  . a feeling of not counting and not being seen for our ageing beauty. That is when the pan ic sets in and you run to the dermatologost orw plastic surgeon . Barring genetics most woman must make a choice or not if your income bracket places limitations on you .p, those who choose nfsaot to wear the same hemlianes as a 20 something or boat checking for your botoz, or lift or tuck put your heads up and th e next time you step out in that awesome outfit sinag the Mary Tyler Moore theme song and work it - I guarantee a second look!